This Is For All The Lonely People
We are only human....we are miracles
Many people live in isolation these days. For example, in the UK, Australia, and the USA, data shows that over 25% of the population lives alone. In Japan, 34% of households are lived in by solo occupants. Family and community are becoming increasingly scarce commodities.
People are even renting friends.
https://rentafriend.com/
I prefer my good friends….and I am not renting them out!
Loneliness vs Alone…now that is a bigger topic. I am lucky enough never to feel lonely. Is it because I like my own company? Or am I just built this way? Looking out my window, walking down the street, just being on this planet, I don’t get the lonely bug.
In the old days, before we were all connected by the internet, we met and socialized. Today, I read recently, that an unwanted phone call equates to the old uninvited drop-in by a friend. It is this type of interaction that causes as much stress for humans today. No wonder we can’t start a revolution. We can’t even pick up the phone. Telephobia is a thing.
If you have an imagination or are lonely or disconnected, you can set yourself up with an AI friend/lover/whatever. Here are some examples of AI bf’s and gf’s and how they look.
You can design them for your viewing, interaction, conversational, erotic pleasure. Even better than renting a real friend. I remember when my kids had to take care of the needs of a Tamagotchi and keep it alive. They failed quite a bit and there was death.
There could be problems….there will be problems.
“Hello, is this my AI Psychologist? Yes, my AI boyfriend is cheating on me with my Anime Chat Friend. What do I do?”
With your AI lover/partner/friend you don’t have to do really anything to keep the relationship going except fork out 75-150 Aussie dollars a year. You get to pick the body type, personality, and feed it all the data and information you care to provide. I guess if you have no friends and this gives you comfort, companionship, etc is there anything wrong with it?
Yeah….the human touch is missing.
Everything is computer….
The human touch, the connection between friends, families, our fellow beings of all kinds is what brings value to our daily life. We can all sleepwalk through our daily activities, or we can engage with the humans we come in contact with. The smallest interaction can turn into something beautiful. You can even interact with nature. Get outside, it’s a lovely day!
Disconnection and loss is something I have encountered. At 27, I left Brooklyn and America behind. Leaving my siblings, cousins,and good friends in the old homeland. The ones who held on are my truest friends/family.
I never thought I would have connections like that again, but I was lucky enough to form a tribe in Sydney.
COVID came along, and I found myself locked down in Melbourne, a place I still reside (primarily). Keeping the connection alive with the people I left behind in Sydney has not been easy. Fortunately, whenever we meet up, it’s as if the Hume Highway didn’t exist, separating us.
Luck and energy and love keep it all running.
Additionally, I have a gaggle of beautiful children and grandchildren, and I miss them greatly.
A friend of mine sent me an article from Vice that said people are using chatbots for trip sitting. That would be OK if you have no one else, but will they call 911 if you need help, hold your hair back if you need to purge, and will they play the perfect music when you need it? Or blow smoke in your face at the appropriate time…so much would be missing.
My mate said this: “I've been using this with some success. Allows me to explore my own consciousness without feeling the need to align my own mind with someone else's projected paradigm.”
We haven't had a chance to chat about his experience, or maybe he was joking. My initial thought was you would be caught in an echo chamber of your own thoughts and sometimes a trip sitter, shaman, guru, or a good friend can add some value to your experience that you cannot quite grasp. People add value to your experience.
We do not want to lose blood, sweat, tears and love and laughter do we? I think I would prefer to sit with a tree.
I am presently enjoying nature. People add spice to my time with the cockatoos. With my partner, we meet new people here in the Northern Rivers.
As I have said many times, taking care of friendships is like taking care of a garden. There are always going to be times when your friends (or family) let you down or you may fail in your skills as a ‘gardener’. I have been lucky enough to have a myriad of friends throughout my life and some for many decades. There is no perfection. There is love.
People have let me down, but I am forgiving and I forget easily. Grudges are not how I move through life. I know I have made my mistakes. I don’t have time to count them.
I have a couple of personal relationships with family that have stalled due to being shut down. These individuals, a brother and a son, do not wish to speak with me. Those details are not for publication, but I have made it clear to them both that the door to my heart and soul is always open to talk through whatever pain or blockage exists between us.
The concern I have today is that people are left to their devices. They live on their devices. Phones interrupt conversations, concentration, and sacred time that should be centered around the people you are with. You may not feel it, but this diminishes the time and connections we try to make.
Being someone of one of the last generations to grow up without the internet, I feel this differently than the generation that has lived with the constant barrage of messages, notifications, and distractions. Of course, I hear some of the same complaints from people younger than me.
With the world becoming a harsher place for everyone to survive, a decrease in community and a lack of genuine connection will make humanity more isolated and lonely. There are articles and studies of how the youth of today have been impacted by the pandemic, isolation due to lack of social connection, and the aforementioned technology sickness that is everywhere.
Your solution, like mine, is a personal choice. What is more important, the next reel, the notifications for your Insta post, or the like on FB or wherever you post, or being in the moment with the people and the place you are in. I know what I try to do and I know even I get trapped in old habits and that damn iPhone wants to be caressed.
My memories are never focused on what happens online. My fondest, deepest and most memorable are when I spent time with someone on a lake, in a car, in a bar, or if they were holding my hair back when I purged. Timeless moments.
If this has triggered you in any way and you need a friend, just reach out to me….I’ll be there. I promise to do my best. If you do not have my number….just message me here and I will send it to you. I am not an AI friend. I am not artificial. You may doubt my intelligence, but we can chat about it.
We all need mates.
